Saint Paul says that "every person has his proper gift from God, some this, and some that”(1 Cor 7:7). We are reluctant, therefore, to dictate the quantity of food for others. However, allowing for the weakness of the sick, we think one hemina of wine a day is sufficient for each. But for those who are strong enough to abstain completely, let them know that they will have their special reward. We read that wine is not at all proper for monks, yet because monks in our own times cannot be persuaded of this, let us agree at least to drink in moderation; because "wine makes even wise men act like fools”(Sir 19:2). But in poorer places where they cannot afford wine, let the monks who live there bless God and not grumble. This we charge above all things: that they live without grumbling.
The exact measure of the hemina is a topic hotly debated by monks all over the world. It could be anything from a glass to three quarters of a gallon. But one thing is certain: wine meant something entirely different to monks of the Middle Ages than it does today. For starters, it wasn’t entirely recreational. Wine made dirty water drinkable. So it was actually rather hard to survive without it. Nonetheless, I find it amusing that Benedict tried—and failed—to talk his monks out of recreational drinking.
I operate under no illusions when it comes to teenage alcohol consumption, but for the purposes of this commentary, we may do better to use the analogy of video games or internet usage. It is entirely appropriate to use either or both in the course of a day. But like alcohol, the computer can become addictive and soul-destroying; and one must be capable of doing without.
I have a friend who claims he once spent thirty-six straight hours playing “World of Warcraft,” breaking only for bathroom and pizza runs. Honestly. This can’t be healthy. We have to set limits for ourselves, and if we can’t meet those limitations by virtue of our own self-discipline, we may need to enlist the help of friends or family. One of my students invented an ingenious solution to his late night gaming: every evening at 6pm, he would hand the computer cord to his dad. When his laptop battery ran out, he knew he had reached his limit. It wasn’t very good for his laptop, but it was good for his soul.
Oh! And did you notice the bit about grumbling? It will turn up in the next chapter too.
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
Saturday, May 24, 2014
CHAPTER 39: On the Quantity of Food
Allowing for the weaknesses of different persons, we believe
that for the daily meal—both at noon and in the evening—two kinds of cooked
food should be sufficient; so that he who perhaps cannot eat one, may make his
meal of the other. And if there should be fruit or vegetables available, a
third dish may be added. Let one pound of bread be sufficient for the day. If the work has been especially hard, the abbot may decide
to add something, if he thinks fit. He
should be careful though not to be excessive, lest his monks be burdened by
indigestion. For nothing is so contrary to Christians as overindulgence, as our
Lord says: “Beware lest your hearts become drowsy from excess” (Luke 21:36).
Nothing
affects morale quite like food. And here
again, our holy father demonstrates the sort of wisdom you might expect from a
Christian who has his head screwed on straight.
The physical and the spiritual are inextricably linked in his mind; and
you can hardly expect a house full of men to be prayerful if they are all
running around grumpy with hunger. For
that reason, Saint Benedict allows for two types of food; he wants his monks to
enjoy their meal and not merely scarf it up like beasts at a trough. A good meal, like any other good thing, is a
gift from God. And because it’s good, it
can be a prayer—like fasting.
On the other hand, a house full of
fat, sloppy monks is also something he wants to avoid. More than that, actually. He fears it.
In fact, he warns against overindulgence no less than three times in the
course of the rule. Why? Because “The belly,” in the words of Saint
John Cassian, “when filled with all kinds of food, gives birth to seeds of
thoughtlessness; and the mind, choked with the weight of food, cannot possibly
hope to guide and govern thoughts” (Institutes, Book 5). So Benedict provides for enough, but not too
much food.
Granted, young folk need more food
than the rest of us, but they also tend to take things to extremes. I remember when I was seventeen, I came back
from surfing all day and ate a loaf of bread.
I remember this because I can still see my father standing in the
doorway to my bedroom holding the empty bread bag in his left hand, a look of
utter astonishment on his face, saying over and over: “You just ate an entire
loaf of bread. You just sat down at the
kitchen table and ate an entire loaf of bread.
A loaf…of bread.” He wasn’t
angry, just awestruck. So here’s another
way that the Rule can come in pretty useful: if we learn to accept every meal
as a gift from God—even the occasional loaf of bread—then we may be less
tempted to overeat, or over-diet, or become overly obsessed with how such-and-such
a food is likely to effect our bodies.
In every way, this is the healthiest attitude to have.
Sunday, May 11, 2014
CHAPTER 38: The Weekly Readers
While the brethren are eating, someone should read aloud from a book. But the reader should not be just anyone who happens to wander along; let the one who is to read begin on Sunday and continue for the whole week. After Mass and Communion let him ask everyone to pray for him that God may ward off the spirit of pride. And let the following verse be said three times by all in the chapel: ‘Lord, open my lips that my mouth may declare your praise’(Psalm 51.15), and so having received the blessing let him begin.
While he is reading, the deepest silence should be kept so that no whispering or voice is heard except that of the reader alone. But let the brethren help one another to the various dishes, so that no one need ask for anything. Thus, when a monk wants something, let him request it by means of a sign of some kind rather than a sound.
Silence is so important to monks that they don’t even talk while they’re eating. Instead, one of them reads from a book while the others quietly have their meal. Saint Benedict even stipulates that the brethren should use sign language rather than whisper when they need something. In my monastery, we have special signs for milk, water, bread, butter, starch, salt, pepper, and so on. The sign for water is three fingers. The sign for starch is a closed fist. We even have a sign for ketchup, which we make by dragging the right forefinger across the left wrist. It’s weird, but it works. And it shows that we really mean it when we say that silence is precious.

The weekly reader, on the other hand, talks all the way through the meal, because that is his job. He needs to be careful, though, because that much talking can be an occasion for all sorts of sin, particularly pride. This is a common struggle for ministers of all sorts; because there can be a real temptation, when you’re good at something, to take credit for it—or worse yet, to put yourself at the center of your ministry. Have you ever watched a priest say mass like he was hosting a talk show (“Well hello, everyone!!!! How are we all this morning!!!! The Lord be with you!!!!!”). Every sentence has to have at least two exclamation points at the end of it. (Lift up your hearts!!!! Let us give thanks to the Lord Our God!!!!!) Years ago, I belonged to a parish where the cantor sang every hymn like he was Frank Sinatra. The whole experience became an exercise in frustration, because liturgy isn’t about entertainment, and it isn’t about us. It’s about God, and redirecting our gaze toward Him.
When the minister himself keeps inserting himself between us and God, we get angry. So a good minister (like a good musician or a good writer or a good teacher...) knows in his heart that the ministry comes first—the message, the music, the story comes first—and the minister’s personality takes a far distant second. Granted, this is hard to do because we can only speak from our own experience. But if we pray hard, the Holy Spirit should make up for our weakness.
Mother Theresa used to refer to herself as “God’s pencil stub.” She didn’t deny that she was doing great work, but she gave credit for that work to Holy Spirit, Who held the pencil. “Will the axe boast over the one who swings it?” said the prophet Isaiah (Isaiah 10:15). You may be sharp, but give credit where credit is due. And if you want your creation to last, don’t build it around yourself. Build it around Christ.
While he is reading, the deepest silence should be kept so that no whispering or voice is heard except that of the reader alone. But let the brethren help one another to the various dishes, so that no one need ask for anything. Thus, when a monk wants something, let him request it by means of a sign of some kind rather than a sound.
Silence is so important to monks that they don’t even talk while they’re eating. Instead, one of them reads from a book while the others quietly have their meal. Saint Benedict even stipulates that the brethren should use sign language rather than whisper when they need something. In my monastery, we have special signs for milk, water, bread, butter, starch, salt, pepper, and so on. The sign for water is three fingers. The sign for starch is a closed fist. We even have a sign for ketchup, which we make by dragging the right forefinger across the left wrist. It’s weird, but it works. And it shows that we really mean it when we say that silence is precious.

The weekly reader, on the other hand, talks all the way through the meal, because that is his job. He needs to be careful, though, because that much talking can be an occasion for all sorts of sin, particularly pride. This is a common struggle for ministers of all sorts; because there can be a real temptation, when you’re good at something, to take credit for it—or worse yet, to put yourself at the center of your ministry. Have you ever watched a priest say mass like he was hosting a talk show (“Well hello, everyone!!!! How are we all this morning!!!! The Lord be with you!!!!!”). Every sentence has to have at least two exclamation points at the end of it. (Lift up your hearts!!!! Let us give thanks to the Lord Our God!!!!!) Years ago, I belonged to a parish where the cantor sang every hymn like he was Frank Sinatra. The whole experience became an exercise in frustration, because liturgy isn’t about entertainment, and it isn’t about us. It’s about God, and redirecting our gaze toward Him.
When the minister himself keeps inserting himself between us and God, we get angry. So a good minister (like a good musician or a good writer or a good teacher...) knows in his heart that the ministry comes first—the message, the music, the story comes first—and the minister’s personality takes a far distant second. Granted, this is hard to do because we can only speak from our own experience. But if we pray hard, the Holy Spirit should make up for our weakness.
Mother Theresa used to refer to herself as “God’s pencil stub.” She didn’t deny that she was doing great work, but she gave credit for that work to Holy Spirit, Who held the pencil. “Will the axe boast over the one who swings it?” said the prophet Isaiah (Isaiah 10:15). You may be sharp, but give credit where credit is due. And if you want your creation to last, don’t build it around yourself. Build it around Christ.
Friday, May 9, 2014
CHAPTER 37: The Very Old and the Very Young
Although
human nature is of itself drawn to feel compassion for the elderly and children,
still, let the decree of the Rule make provision also for them. We should take
into account their natural weakness and let the full strictness of the Rule not
be kept in respect to food, but let there be a tender regard for them, and let
them eat before regular hours.
One
of the really formative experiences of my life came to me during my freshman
year of college when I signed up for a class called “Feminist Literature.” I
figured I it was a good way to get some introductory English credits and meet
chicks at the same time. It wasn’t. But I did learn a lot about Literature and a lot
about feminism, partly because when I realized I wasn’t going to hit it off
with most of my classmates, I decided to get my kicks by sitting in the front
row and taunting the professor.
In spite of this, Doctor Brown and I actually got along pretty well. But the real turning point came one sweltering spring afternoon when the air conditioner gave out and Professor Brown asked me to open the window. In a lecture hall full of women, she asked me, the only man, to open the windows. I could see she was setting me up, so I made a big show of it. I stretched out my shoulders, worked the cricks out of my neck, and right as I passed by I said, “Why don’t you let the man take care of this.”
A deep hush settled over the lecture hall, and Professor Brown put her hand on my shoulder and she said, “No, why don’t we let the stronger of us take care of this. Incidentally, that happens to be you.” Not surprisingly, when class ended, she asked me to stay behind. I said, “So I guess when the going gets tough, all that feminism goes out the window…literally.” (I’d been rehearsing it all class.)
And she answered, “No. As a matter of fact, feminism and chivalry are two sides of the same coin. These conventions exist so that men will know their place. You hold the door open, you throw your coat over the puddle or help me with my coat precisely because you are physically stronger. And chivalry is one way that we as human beings create a society where the weak and the strong coexist in harmony. Where it isn’t just every man for himself.”
So I said, “But I thought we were equal.”
To which she answered, “Equal in dignity; but not equal in ability. I’m smarter than you are. You’re stronger than I am. Therefore I condescend to teach you, and you condescend to open the window for me. This is how we build a society where diversity of persons is respected and the strong do not exploit the weak.”
In a monastery, just like in any truly civilized community, the strong look out for the weak. But here’s the catch: the monastery isn’t just any community, it’s a spiritual community; and if we are to take Jesus at his word, then the weak and the poor have a spiritual advantage over the rest of us. We protect and care for them because ironically, they are the most powerful men in the monastery.
In spite of this, Doctor Brown and I actually got along pretty well. But the real turning point came one sweltering spring afternoon when the air conditioner gave out and Professor Brown asked me to open the window. In a lecture hall full of women, she asked me, the only man, to open the windows. I could see she was setting me up, so I made a big show of it. I stretched out my shoulders, worked the cricks out of my neck, and right as I passed by I said, “Why don’t you let the man take care of this.”
A deep hush settled over the lecture hall, and Professor Brown put her hand on my shoulder and she said, “No, why don’t we let the stronger of us take care of this. Incidentally, that happens to be you.” Not surprisingly, when class ended, she asked me to stay behind. I said, “So I guess when the going gets tough, all that feminism goes out the window…literally.” (I’d been rehearsing it all class.)
And she answered, “No. As a matter of fact, feminism and chivalry are two sides of the same coin. These conventions exist so that men will know their place. You hold the door open, you throw your coat over the puddle or help me with my coat precisely because you are physically stronger. And chivalry is one way that we as human beings create a society where the weak and the strong coexist in harmony. Where it isn’t just every man for himself.”
So I said, “But I thought we were equal.”
To which she answered, “Equal in dignity; but not equal in ability. I’m smarter than you are. You’re stronger than I am. Therefore I condescend to teach you, and you condescend to open the window for me. This is how we build a society where diversity of persons is respected and the strong do not exploit the weak.”
In a monastery, just like in any truly civilized community, the strong look out for the weak. But here’s the catch: the monastery isn’t just any community, it’s a spiritual community; and if we are to take Jesus at his word, then the weak and the poor have a spiritual advantage over the rest of us. We protect and care for them because ironically, they are the most powerful men in the monastery.
Friday, May 2, 2014
CHAPTER 36: Sick Monks
Before and above all things, we must care for the sick, so that truly they may be served as Christ is served, for he has said, "I was sick and you visited Me" (Mt 25:36). And "As long as you did it to one of my least brethren, you did it to Me" (Mt 25:40). But let the sick themselves also consider that they are served for the honor of God, and let them not grieve their brethren who serve them by unnecessary demands. These must, however, be patiently endured, because from such as these a more bountiful reward is gained. Let the abbot's greatest concern, therefore, be that the sick suffer no neglect.
Saint Benedict shares Christ’s concern for the weak and sick. He recognizes that within any given community, these ‘little ones’ will always be in need of attention, and that the community may well be tempted to ignore them. Instead, says Saint Benedict, we should look after them first.
In any community, but particularly among younger folk, there is a tendency to shun those who stand out as weak or strange. It goes back, I’m sure, to that ‘pack instinct’ that kept us humans alive for so many thousands of years. Weak members slow down the herd and make it vulnerable to predators…survival of the fittest and all that.
But get this: we aren’t animals. We not only look after the weak; we love, protect, and honor them as Christ’s special presence among us
And so the sick aren’t merely to be tolerated they are to be preferred. I've often wondered what it would be like to receive a letter like Saint Paul's first epistle to the Corinthians. What do you think was their reaction when he kicked off his letter with "You're not too bright, and you don't have much class, but God loves you precisely because no one else does”?[1] As a Corinthian, I’d have to question whether I really wanted to be part of this group. After all, when you’re picking teammates, who ever starts with the smallest, weakest, and least experienced? Yet this appears to be the way God Himself operates (think David and Goliath, Jacob and Esau, Israel and Egypt…). So to be a good Christian, it actually helps to be classless, helpless, foolish, weak, and despised. If none of those labels apply to you, then I guess you’re just unlucky.
[1] Literally, “Consider your own calling, brothers. Not many of you were wise by human standards, not many were powerful, not many were of noble birth. Rather, God chose the foolish of the world to shame the wise, and God chose the weak of the world to shame the strong, and God chose the lowly and despised of the world, those who count for nothing, to reduce to nothing those who are something,”(1 Corinthians 1:26-28).
Thursday, April 17, 2014
CHAPTER 35: Of the Weekly Servers in the Kitchen
No one should be excused from kitchen
duty, except on account of sickness or more necessary work, because this is how
merit and charity are acquired. If the
community is large, let the cellarer be excused from the kitchen, and also
those who, as we have said, are engaged in more urgent work; but let the rest
serve one another in charity. At the end
of the week, these same servers should wash the linens and do the Saturday
cleaning. Both the outgoing and the incoming servers should wash the feet of
all.
Doing the dishes may sound like an
awfully minor detail to include in the Rule, but Saint Benedict seems to think
it has special importance. Perhaps that’s
because dishwashing is the one job nobody wants. When dinner is over, the one thing you really
want to do is relax, but Benedict sees this as a unique opportunity to acquire “greater
merit and charity.” And by having the
servers wash the feet of the brethren, he links their job to that of Christ Himself,
who “came not to be served but to serve” (Matt 20:28).
So what seems like a small act of
service is really a big opportunity to cultivate holiness. “Anything
you do whatsoever,” said Saint Paul, do it for the glory of God” (1 Cor 10:31). So that means you can brush your teeth for the
glory of God; scrub a toilet for the glory of God; change a light bulb for the
glory of God. Whatever you do, you can
do it for the glory of God.
And
yet, if glorifying god were that
easy, wouldn’t there be more saints in the world? Of course you can’t necessarily identify a
saint by his appearance, and there’s no way to measure holiness. But then again, many of the stories of our
saints are full of spectacular episodes which prove their holiness: Saint
Dunstan held a demon by the nose with a pair of jewelry pliers. Saint Joseph of Cupertino prayed so hard he
levitated right out his bedroom window. Saint
Rose of Lima sat up in her coffin in the middle of her own funeral. Saint Anselm, according to Eadmer, his
eleventh-century biographer, predicted that a trout of unusual size would be
served to him for supper—and it was![1] These
are certainly some of the more spectacular, more obvious signs by which our
saints have been identified. And of
course, the more spectacular the sign, the more likely they are to be remembered.
We
have a tendency, therefore, to think that we must work wonders, cast out
demons, raise the dead, levitate, bi-locate, have visions, or make prophesies
to be a saint. But that just isn’t the
case. Saint Therese of Liseaux liked to
say, "Our Lord needs from us neither great deeds nor profound thoughts.
Neither intelligence nor talents. But he cherishes
simplicity" (Story of a Soul).
Or, in the words of Blessed Mother
Theresa: “There are no great deeds. Only small deeds with great love.”
[1] If
you don’t believe me, just read Book I, Section 17 entitled How a trout of unusual size was caught for
his supper as he foretold.
And while you’re at it, be sure to read section 18 entitled How, as he had predicted, a catfish was
unexpectedly brought to his friend. Wow!
Monday, April 7, 2014
CHAPTER 34: How Each Monk Should Be Treated
It is written in the book of Acts,
"Each person was given as much as he needed”(Acts
2:45). This is not to say that the abbot should play
favorites (God forbid), but that all decisions should take into account human
weakness. The one who needs less should thank
God and not be upset, and the one who needs more should be humble, and not
pleased with himself because of the sympathy shown to him. Thus all the members of the community will be
at peace.
Should everyone be treated
equally? Saint Benedict’s answer,
surprisingly, is no. His monks should be
treated fairly, but they shouldn’t all be treated the same. This strikes the modern ear—and in
particular, the American ear—as rather unfair.
And it sounds all the more peculiar when you stop to consider how much effort
monks spend trying to downplay their individuality. We change our names, wear clothes that make us
all look alike, we eat the same food and say the same prayers... When our hands are folded and our hoods are
up, you literally can’t tell who’s who.
Our whole life’s work is, in the words of John the Baptist, to “decrease
so that He [Jesus] may increase” (John:3.30)
But the bottom line is that the
monastery is a family, not an army. And
while every member of this family is equal in dignity, we are not all equal in
authority. Nor are we equal in the gifts
we’ve received from God. Some monks are
stronger than others, or smarter, or cleverer or bigger or wiser or
holier. And the stronger brothers often
have to take up the slack for the weaker ones.
But consider Jesus’ warning, “For he to whom much has been given, much
will be expected” (Luke 12:48). Everyone
has their gifts, and if you have more, don’t be surprised or resentful when you
are asked to do more work.
Speaking of which…
Above all, let not the evil of grumbling
appear in the least word or sign for any reason whatever. If anyone be found
guilty of grumbling, let him be severely disciplined.
There’s Benedict
going on about grumbling again…this is the fourth time it has come up. This time, however, let’s have a look at what
some others have to say about it.
John Chrysostom:
“It is better to do nothing than to do it with grumbling, because when you grumble,
even the very thing itself is ruined…For grumbling is intolerable, most intolerable;
in fact, it borders on blasphemy because the grumbler is ungrateful to God.”
(Homily 8)
Saint
Augustine: “Just as vinegar eats away at the vessel that holds it, so resentment
corrodes the heart if it is left there overnight. (Letter to Mother Felicitas)
C.S. Lewis: “Hell begins with a grumbling mood...but you are still distinct from it. You may even criticize it in yourself and wish you could stop it. But there may come a day when you can no longer. Then there will be no you left to criticize the mood or even to enjoy it, but just the grumble itself, going on forever like a machine. It is not a question of God "sending us" to hell. In each of us there is something growing, which will BE hell unless it is nipped in the bud ” (God in the Dock, p. 155).
St. John of the Cross: “Whenever anything disagreeable or displeasing happens to you, remember
Christ crucified and be silent.”
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